Thursday, January 28, 2010

single life II.

Did some thinking on my post last night. I even did a little research as well. I didn't find books with a single woman character in it. Yes, helen keller was single. But people made a big deal about her being single.
I also got many comments on my post. Thank you all for the comments, support, and the prayers. Its good to know that its okay to be single. Its okay to live a fullfilling life as a single person.
I am still continuing to look for single disabled women characters in literature. Just for fun. I am not going to let this turn into an obsession.
Furthermor, I intend to be more thankful and happy about my single life. Hmm, may be I have come up with a reading challenge for myself. finding and reading books that have single women as characters. Second, find and read books with single women with a disability, or disabilities.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

single life.

I am still single. I have no prospects. Some of my friends and family give me a very hard time. This hard time makes me feel unworthy and very down on myself at times.
However, I do believe that being single isn't all bad. Then on the other hand being single is not normal either. My mom once told me to get off my high horse. Which I took toom mean setll for a little bit less. The statement hurt my feelings at the time. then I thought how mom just wanted the best for me. She wants me to have a normal life and to be happy. Just like all of those friends and other family members that harass me about being single.
Thinking back on the talk and speculation about me being single. I have realized that they have absolutely no clue how to be disabled and search for a partner. They see me as myself. They don't focus on my disability. They only see me as niece, daughter, sister, and friend.
This might sound mean. But, I have wished that some of my family and friends could live my life for longer than a day. Then ,may be they would have a little bit of understanding. If not more than a little bit. That is another topic of discussion.
Think of any book or drama that shows a strong independent woman who is totally blind, and or has another disability that has a "normal" life. You know the normal life that society has. If you have thought of any books. Then you are doing lots better than I. Even the romance come home my heart that has a blind character in it isn't normal. The character goes blind. She doesn't live with it through out her life.
I am a sstrong believer in the idea that you don't control who you fall in love with. Yes, that belief is tested when I am hounded and my sexuality is questioned, or if the only reason someone wants me involved in a relationship, is because I need to be taken care of. excuse me while I consinder gagging on that last statement.
Anyway, if I didn't admit that being questioned and treated like I am a criminal or committed a deadly sin for being single bothers me. I would be using that steriotype of the person with any disability is very happy all of the time. That isn't me.
Off of my soap box for now. I give props to those of us who are single. Even though we might not like it all of the time and we get treated like its a crime or a deadly sin to be single. Its all right. Finally, my young cuz britt has the right idea. She posted this in her status.
" a woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her..."

I believe that this can apply to guys as well. And, it can be amended so that the essence of the statement can mean the same.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010


Now that the television coverage has died down we no longer hear much about haiti. I know that there are still both losses, hope and miracles occuring there everyday. I suggest that we keep the country in prayer. I don't believe like pat Robinson that haiti deserved this disaster. I also don't believe the venezuelan(excuse the spelling), leader's idea that we dropped an earthquake bomb on haiti. That is just laughable. n

Tuesday, January 19, 2010


Karin Slaughter
Mystery/ suspense
In this book. Will Trent is trying to find both a killer and a kidnapper. This book takes you on a variety of twists and turns.
You never know where the story is going. Slaughter also lets the reader inside her main character's mind and heart. It makes will trent a very likeable guy, and cop.
I give this book a 4.

winter girls

Winter girls Laurie Halls-anderson
YA fiction
I read this book in three days. I wasn't able to put it down. It tells a story of a teneage girl. Who is dealling with self-abuse, anorexia, and the death of her estranged bestfriend. If I were teaching either junior high or high school, I would have this book on my list of required reading.
Hmm, wonder if there will be a class for women or either young girls, where books like this can be read. Even a class for blind women and blind girls would be awesome. I think these would be really good classes. But what do I know?

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

book review

I just finished life lines. By cj lions.
This book tells the story of a young woman doctor who is blamed for killing the chief surgion's son. All of this happens on her first day as the new attending physician. You would think that this intire book would focus on her clearing her name.
But, you will get a surprise. That is if you continue to read the book.
I don't want to give much more away.
I must say that I enjoyed the book. I give it a 8, and 4 stars on the goodreads rating scale.